After a certain age, both men and women develop sexual desires, which is also considered a natural need of the body because the whole process benefits a person both physically as well as mentally. However, it is not the same in every case. Some people also face a lack of enthusiasm and unwillingness to form sexual relationships. There can be various reasons associated with such a situation, therefore, today ETV Bharat Sukhibhava is sharing with you some of the factors affecting sexual desires and other interesting things related to sexual life.
Why Is Sexual Intercourse Enjoyable?
The stimulation during sexual intercourse and the hormones produced during this process, makes both mind and body feel happy, pleasured, and content. Looking at it from a scientific point of view, during a physical relationship, our body reacts in different ways, and these reactions can be categorized as physical, emotional, and mental. In the 1960s, in a research on sexual relationships, researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson mentioned four types of sexual arousal, which are:
- Excitement: Excitement or stimulation plays a very important role during sexual intercourse. During this phase, both male and female genitals and sufficient blood are present in their muscle fibers, and in such a situation, the sensitivity of the veins in these parts also increases. This produces a translucent fluid in women, which lubricates the vagina.
- Plateau: It is a phase in the process where the intensity of stimulation remains in the person and the vagina, penis, and clitoris become very sensitive. During this time, the sensations keep changing. The excitement either increases or begins to decrease.
- Orgasm: Usually, men and women experience orgasms during sex due to the contraction of the muscles, but it is different for both. As observed in most women, they may achieve orgasm due to stimulation in the clitoris, and many times, it may even be relatively quicker. While on the other hand, men usually experience orgasm due to stimulation in the upper end of their penis. Although most men ejaculate as a result of orgasm, an orgasm without ejaculation is also possible. In men, where there is a contraction in the penis, rectum, and pelvis, in women, it is felt in the vagina, uterus, and rectum.
- Resolution: According to research, the resolution is also responsible for sexual arousal. Here resolution is not associated with striving for good sex, but with the process, reaction, and state, before and after orgasm. The state can vary between the male and female counterparts. For example, men have orgasms after ejaculation, but it is not necessarily the same with women.
According to the research, as a result of these 4 stages, men and women also experience pleasure and feel content through masturbation.
Effects Of Sexual Intercourse Of Brain
During the process of sexual intercourse, the nerves in our genitals send signals to our brain. The neurotransmitter, considered as the chemical messenger of the brain, helps in awakening the sensation associated with sex in other parts of the body. It also produces various hormones and helps them flow. The hormones produced in the body and their functions are as follows:
- Dopamine
Dopamine hormone increases during peak stimulation
- Oxytocin
It is believed that the release of oxytocin hormone increases love between the couple. This hormone is released in our body after orgasm.
- Non-epinephrine
This hormone is produced in the body during sexual stimulation. It thins and contracts the blood vessels, making the genitals more sensitive.
- Serotonin
Serotonin hormone is secreted in our body during peak levels of arousal and releases happy and pleasurable feelings in a person.
- Prolactin
The amount of prolactin hormone also increases in our body during orgasm.
Sex is not always pleasurable!
The research also informs about the reasons why sexual relations are not always satisfying or pleasurable. Researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson point out that sex is not always enjoyable for everyone. Many times people experience pain during sex, mostly women. Research has shown that about 75% of women experience pain during sex at some point in their life. At the same time, about 10-20% of women regularly feel pain during sex. Common causes of pain during sex in women are:
Hormonal changes, due to lack of lubrication in the vagina
- Due to injuries after childbirth
- Due to vaginal infections
Men may also experience pain during the process as a result of:
- Phimosis i.e. due to structural problems in the penis
- Due to prostate-related discomfort
Reasons Of Unwillingness To Have Sex
Both men and women may not be willing to have sexual intercourse and there can be various reasons behind it. Some of them include:
- As a result of pain due to lack of lubrication of the genitals
- Because of sexual diseases and infections
- Having sex with one or more partners
- Lacking stimulation or excitement
- Due to any type of sexual abuse or related situation in the past
- Pain during urination or abnormal vaginal bleeding
Therefore, to deal with it, you can consult your doctor or even a sex therapist, according to the problems you are facing. Talk about your problems openly with your partner. With better communication, better sexual relations can be established.
